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Pinings: Dirty laundry
by Sherry Hughes sah103@hotmail.com
Dear Pinings,
A couple of weeks ago in the laundry room at my apartment complex, a neighbor confided in me that she is having an affair with a man in my building. She didn’t know it when she told me, but I’m friends with this man’s wife. When she figured it out (by the look on my face), she got all upset and begged me not to tell. I haven’t, but I’m not sure whether or not I’m doing the right thing.
These folks have a difficult marriage and I’m not at all sure they should be together. But I don’t think an affair is the way to go about ending things either.
I haven’t said anything to either of them … but I’m finding myself avoiding my friend in fear that I’ll say something I shouldn’t. I feel very angry with him, too.
What do I do?
Dear What,
Ah, the holidays. Such fun stuff going on.
If it were up to me, I’d tell the husband what I know and tell him to fish or cut bait. In other words, tell him to end the affair, end the marriage or ’fess up …but you aren’t going to keep this to yourself forever. If you tell the wife, she may cop a resentment against you rather than him. I’m not sure why things work this way, but they do, and I know because I’ve done it.
Then, try to be loving and helpful when the you-know-what hits the fan.
Happy New Year.
Sherry Hughes welcomes letters from readers at sah103@hotmail.com
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