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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah (PG-13)

Two lifelong besties do the kind of brutal (psychological) violence to each other that only two middle school girls can do in You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah, an Adam Sandler family production.

The girl having the titular bat mitzvah in her friend group’s season of bar and bat mitzvahs is Stacy Friedman, played by Sunny Sandler, the younger of Adam Sandler’s two real-life daughters. His older daughter Sadie plays Ronnie Friedman, Stacy’s older sister, and their genuine sibling chemistry — unwavering support while also threatening to murder each other — is one of many endearing elements of this comedy. Stacy and Lydia Rodriguez Katz (Samantha Lorraine) have long been best friends, planning their spectacular “today you are a woman” bat mitzvah parties for years. But then, as can happen in the seventh grade, there are shake-ups in friendships. Lydia becomes friendly with a group of popular girls. She doesn’t seem to think much of it but Stacy becomes both jealous and eager to get herself included, especially since those popular girls hang out with Andy Goldfarb (Dylan Hoffman), the boy who makes the world go slow-mo for Stacy.

At first Stacy and Lydia seem to fit in, but then Stacy has a menstrual product mishap in front of the whole popular-girls-and-cute-boy crowd that Lydia seems to join the populars in laughing at. Horrified, Stacy declares her love for Andy dead — but not so dead that she doesn’t become enraged when she sees Lydia kissing him later. Thus does Stacy shout to Lydia the movie’s title: “You are so not invited to my bat mitzvah.” This seeming break in their friendship does not, however, lead to an end of hostilities between Lydia and Stacy, with Stacy eventually (accidentally) burning it all down over her hurt at what she sees as Lydia’s betrayal.

Adam Sandler plays the Friedman girls’ father, Danny, with his Uncut Gems wife Idina Menzel playing Bree, Danny’s wife and the girls’ mother. Rounding out the Sandler family on screen is Adam Sandler’s real-life wife, Jackie Sandler, who plays Lydia’s mother, Gabi, in the midst of a divorce from Lydia’s father, Eli (Luis Guzmán). With fun small roles — Sarah Sherman as Rabbi Rebecca and Ido Mosseri as DJ Schmuley, the must-have party DJ — the movie has an overall chummy feel. Lots of good-natured yuks and a general sense of good will toward all. Which is sort of your standard Adam Sandler Netflix fare, except for the young-teen-girl on young-teen-girl angst and destruction and love and loyalty. Those elements have some surprising sharp edges that can take you right back to the lunch room and the kids who are too cool and the close friends with whom there’s been a falling out. And even though the movie knows we know how not a big deal in the scheme of one’s whole life the slights and upsets that torment Stacy are — and how ridiculous her response is — the movie doesn’t belittle the bigness of these kids’ emotions.

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah is a charmer of a gentle growing-up comedy with just enough “thank God I’ll never be 13 again” tartness to give it some genuine emotional moments. B+

Rated PG-13 for some crude/suggestive material, strong language and brief teen drinking, according to the MPA on filmratings.com. Directed by Sammi Cohen with a screenplay by Alison Peck and Fiona Rosenbloom, You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah is an hour and 43 minutes long and is streaming on Netflix.

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Food truck Fridays

Intown Concord sponsors food trucks for First Friday

This past May, Intown Concord started a new tradition with First Friday. On the first Friday of every month, businesses in downtown Concord are encouraged to stay open until 8 p.m. or later. Each month, Intown Concord sponsors one food truck to attend, previously Wicked Tasty Food Truck and The Sleazy Vegan. Next up, on Friday, Sept. 1, is One Happy Clam.

“In the past, people have made comments about Concord closing up early and how there wasn’t much to do in the evening here, so we thought to focus on an effort to get the businesses to do something special once a month to encourage people to come downtown,” said Jessica Martin, the executive director for Intown Concord. “We have been sponsoring a food truck to come … and we’re hoping long-term that more food trucks will come down.”

Derry native Rick Metts, who has been in the restaurant business for 50 years, established One Happy Clam in September 2021. He started out at McDonald’s in 1974 and worked there through high school and into college. Twelve years later Metts, along with a friend, bought Clam Haven in Derry, where he worked for 33 years along with his wife, daughters and grandson.

“I had always dreamed of owning a diner, and the food truck craze was starting [around] 2015, 2016, so I put that in the back of my mind to maybe pursue when I got out of Clam Haven,” Metts said.

In 2020 when he sold the restaurant, that’s exactly what he did with his wife, daughters and grandchildren. He bought a pre-built truck in August 2021, bought and sold the necessary equipment, and a month later, One Happy Clam was on the road. Along with seafood, they also serve hamburgers, hot dogs, sandwiches and more. Due to his time at Clam Haven, he already had a reputation in the community.

“They knew what we served at the restaurant, so I try to use the same suppliers and the same menu items,” he said. “There’s a consistency, so they know if it’s me this is what they’re going to get.”

Unable to attend First Friday in July because the truck needed a new transmission, Metts is eager to be involved in September.

“I’m looking forward to it,” he said. “It’s a little different market. They don’t know who I am up there, some might, most don’t, so we get a chance to make a good first impression.”

Martin says there’s been a great response from the downtown businesses, Gibson’s Bookstore, Homebody and Achromatic being among the ones that have taken part in the later hours.

Revelstoke has been having a DJ, Wine on Main has done a free wine tasting and Spruce Home has even given out free iced coffee and doughnuts.

“It’s been a little bit of a slow burn but we’re gaining momentum,” Martin said. “We’re trying to put some sort of musical act near the food truck so it’s kind of a nice vibe, people get their food, they can sit there and eat and listen to some entertainment at the same time.”

First Friday
When: The first Friday of every month. The next event is Friday, Sept. 1
Where: Downtown Concord
Cost: Free
This month’s First Friday is being billed as “Dogapalooza” highlighting the dog-friendly nature of downtown, according to an Intown newsletter which include a list of businesses that allow dogs either inside the business or outside leashed as well as which businesses offer treats or water.
Also this Ryan Deachman (pictured bottom right) from 6 to 7 p.m. at Bicentennial Square.

Featured photo:Courtesy photo.

All things extraterrestrial

Annual UFO Festival celebrates the “Incident at Exeter”

It has been 58 years since the Incident at Exeter, when 18-year-old Norman Muscarello saw an unidentified flying object, described as being about the size of the car with flashing red lights, on his way home one night in Kensington. The incident has been celebrated for the past 14 years with the annual Exeter UFO Festival. This year’s event will be held from Saturday, Sept. 2, to Sunday, Sept. 3.

The Exeter Kiwanis Club took over the event as a fundraiser from Dean Merchant in 2014, according to Bob Cox, the president of the organization. All of the profits go to children’s charities and programs and community programs.

“At the time it was only speaking events,” Cox said. “We took [it] on and expanded it to include the whole family [with] arts and crafts and food. … Each year we keep growing.”

Among the 10 speakers at the town hall will be award-winning documentary filmmaker Jennifer Stein, who will give her presentation on Sunday. She is involved with the Mutual UFO Network in Pennsylvania and Arizona, and has been in the UFO field for 25 years. This year Stein will take her audience on a virtual journey through the Sacred Valley of Peru, focusing on Cusco, Sacsayhuaman, Ollantaytambo and Machu Picchu, where, she says, some of the most interesting and significant megalithic architecture exists.

“Ollantaytambo is a megalithic site that sits high up on top of a plateau … and it shows huge megalithic blocks of stone that really defy explanation of how they got there,” Stein said. “On the underside where they are not eroded by sun and weather, some of them have smooth granite blocks. They’re huge, as big as semi trucks. How the heck did they get there and who put them there and why?”

Another mystery is the nazca lines in southern Peru. These massive illustrations seem to depict monkeys, humans, lizards and scorpions among other images that can only be fully viewed from an aerial perspective.

“Many people think that it would be impossible for us to build them and they kind of say maybe an earlier culture that wasn’t from Earth built them,” she said. “Erich von Daniken was one of the first people to bring attention to the amazing enigmas of Peru … and [to] coin the phrase ‘ancient aliens.’ … He claimed in his [1968] book, Chariots of the Gods? that these things had to be built by a culture that had aerial abilities.”

Other speakers include paranormal researcher and investigator Mike Stevens, paranormal adventurers and authors Paul and Ben Eno, and ufologist Peter Robbins.

Other happenings include kids’ activities such as face painting and rock painting, an alien costume and alien pet parade contest, a souvenir shop, an opportunity to meet the speakers, food concessions, and trolley rides to the site of the incident.

“One of the favorite things for the kids and the Exeter community are those trolley rides,” Cox said. “Last year we had only one trolley … and they made four or five trips. It was so popular, we got a lot of feedback that we should have more this year, so we’re having two trolleys on Saturday and one trolley on Sunday to try to respond to their interests and requests, so that’s a big growth [opportunity] for the festival.”

Exeter UFO Festival

Meet the speakers
Where: Hampton Inn & Suites Exeter, 59 Portsmouth Ave., Exeter
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, 6:30 to 8 p.m.
Cost: $25

UFO Festival souvenir shop
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, 8 a.m. to Sunday, Sept. 3, 4 p.m.
Where: Exeter Town Hall, 10 Front St., Exeter
Cost: varies

Town Hall speaker series
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, 8:45 a.m. to 5 p.m.,
Sunday, Sept 3., 8:45 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Where: Exeter Town Hall, 10 Front St., Exeter
Cost: $35 for both days (no single-day pricing)

Food & refreshments
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, 9 a.m. to Sunday, Sept. 3, 4 p.m.
Where: tent by the bandstand
Cost: varies

Trolley ride to the “Incident at Exeter” site
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, 9 a.m. to 1 p.m., and Sunday, Sept. 3, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.
Where: Trolley leaves from 10 Front St. and goes to incident site 5 miles south in Kensington
Cost: $5

Kids’ activities
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, 10 a.m. to Sunday, Sept 3, 2 p.m.
Where: Town House Common Park, corner of Front St. and Court St.
Cost: Free

Alien costume & alien pet parade and contest
When: Saturday, Sept. 2, noon to 12:30 p.m.
Where: Town House Common Park, corner of Front and Court streets
Cost: Free

Summer scrapbook

A season in pictures

Summer, at least in the unofficial vibe-y sense, comes to something of a close with Labor Day weekend. As we all enjoy a weekend of sun (maybe) and heat (possibly), here’s a look at some of the happenings over the past several months.

Photo above: kids attending the Currier Museum of the Art’s Summer Block Party in July get their faces painted by young artists from Manchester Central High School. Photo by Morgan Karanasios courtesy the Currier Museum.

rock band playing under yellow awning outside on sunny day
Performers at the We Are One Festival in downtown Manchester on Saturday, Aug. 19. Photo by Cindy Telley.
cast in troll costumes on stage, lined up to do a dance
Frozen at the Palace Theatre’s Summer Children’s Series. Photo courtesy of the Palace Theatre.

crowd of people in lawn chairs sitting in field listening to music
Music-lovers gather for Music on the Green at the Canterbury Shaker Village, which runs Sundays from 4 to 5 p.m. through Sept. 17. Photo courtesy the Canterbury Shaker Village.
woman teaching 2 children how to make clay pot on wheel at outdoor demonstration
Pottery tent at the League of NH Craftsmen’s Fair, held at Mount Sunapee Resort Aug. 5 through Aug. 13. Photo by Alicia Bergeron courtesy the League.
3 women running beside each other, holding raised up hands as they celebrate during road race, people watching from sidewalk
Delta Dental Road Race in downtown Manchester on Aug. 10. Photo by Cindy Telley.
group of people, some with dogs, standing in front of van, wearing rainbow tie-die shirts
The Humane Society of Greater Nashua at the Nashua Pride Festival on June 24. Photo is from the organization’s Facebook posts of the event.
woman under demonstration tent holding up colorful painted flags on string
At the July 15 Summer Block Party at the Currier Museum of Art in Manchester, Rachael Kane, Currier curator of education & interpretation, hangs flags created as part of the community art project “The Wishing House” by Vermont-based artist Mark Ragonese. Photo by Morgan Karanasios courtesy the Currier Museum.
a woman and 3 teenagers putting heads together to take selfie in front of hand made poster for production of The Wizard of Oz
Summer Stage Theater Camp in Merrimack. Courtesy photo from Merrimack Parks & Recreation.
young man dressed in historical army costume talking with group of girls during outdoor history event
33rd American Independence Festival was held on July 15 at the American Independence Museum in Exeter, commemorating the day the Declaration of Independence arrived in New Hampshire (July 16, 1776). Courtesy photo.
young woman sitting on outdoor folding chair behind racks of printed artwork on green lawn
Vivian Rosalee at the Greeley Park Art Festival in Nashua Aug. 19 and Aug. 20. Photo by Judd Duclos.
actors dressed as disney princess characters on stage with hands raised as they sing at outdoor venue
Fairytale Festival on July 29, part of the calendar of SummerFun events in Nashua. Courtesy photo.
2 men and 1 woman posing beside stone sculpture outdoors sunny day
Polish sculptor Anna Rasinska stands next to her sculpture “The Window of Change” at the Nashua International Sculpture Symposium with David Tiller, board member, and Jim Larson, another of this year’s four sculptors and the Artistic Director. This year’s pieces were unveiled June 3. Courtesy photo.
5 men in uniform standing in row, 3 holding state and national flags, one holding ax
Fourth of July in Merrimack. Courtesy photo from Merrimack Parks & Recreation.
woman pouring wine into visitor's wineglass at indoor event
The New England Wine Spectacular, held June 15 in Manchester. Courtesy photo.
kids playing tug of war with long rope in field on suny day
Naticook Day Camp in Merrimack. Courtesy photo Merrimack Parks & Recreation.
some guy who looks like every other guy playing guitar on small stage at outdoor market. boring photo
Concord Market Days in downtown Concord June 20 through June 22. Photo by Cindy Telley.
2 women wearing event shirts printed with sunflowers, standing in door of barn beside buckets of sunflowers, smiling and waving
The Sunflower Festival at Coppal House Farm in Lee ran July 29 through Aug. 6. Photo by Cindy Telley.
actor kevin pollack, a mature man with receding hairline, standing on stage with microphone
Kevin Pollak at the Manchester International Film Festival. Courtesy photo.
boy wearing baseball had, seen from back, holding recurve bow and aiming at blow up target
Pembroke-Allenstown Old Home Days on Aug. 26. Photo by Cindy Telley.
red, white and blue hot air balloon rising into blue sky
Suncook Valley Rotary Hot Air Balloon Rally in Pittsfield was Aug. 4 and Aug. 5. Photo by Cindy Telley.
mass of leather coated bikers on motorcycles coming down the street
Laconia Motorcycle Week ran June 10 through June 18. Photo by Cindy Telley.
stage set up outside large historic brick building, people watching play on lawn in front, duck
Shakespeare on the Green outside the Dana Center at Saint Anselm College presented Romeo & Juliet and A Midsummer Night’s Dream the last two weekends in July. Courtesy photo.
woman placing round, flat tortillas on grill at outdoor event
We Are One Festival in downtown Manchester on Aug. 16. Photo by Cindy Telley.

News & Notes 23/08/31

Peaches in 2024?

Severe winter freezes have decimated New Hampshire’s peach crop this year, prompting growers to innovate. According to a press release from the NH Fruit Growers Association, Alyson’s Orchard in Walpole, which faced a complete peach loss due to the cold snap in February, is now importing peaches from New Jersey to meet customer demand, noting the freshness and cost-effectiveness compared to California imports. While some growers like Alyson’s Orchard are focusing on immediate solutions, others, like Rich Leonard of Miller Farm in Durham, are rehabilitating their farms and preparing for next year’s crop. New Hampshire hosts 114 farms that cultivate peaches, covering approximately 83 acres. Residents can find local orchard offerings at nhfruitgrowers.org/find-an-orchard.

Max on the move

Max the Moose, a life-sized stuffed animal, has relocated to the New Hampshire Department of Education (NHED) offices in Concord for a temporary stay. Originally created by the Stuffed Animal House in 2000 to be showcased at the Eastern States Exposition, Max was meant to give visitors a sense of the real size of a moose. Over the years, he has traveled extensively throughout New Hampshire and even to New York City and Boston as a goodwill ambassador for the state. “Max has served as a fantastic ambassador for New Hampshire for more than 20 years, encouraging people of all ages to learn more about the state,” Sarah L. Stewart, DNCR commissioner, said in the release. “That’s why it’s so fitting that he’ll be spending some time at the Department of Education.” Those interested in seeing Max can arrange a photo-op by contacting the NHED at comms@doe.nh.gov.

Lotto win

In Fiscal Year 2023, the New Hampshire Lottery achieved record sales of $603 million, marking a 12 percent increase from the previous year, according to a press release. This led to a historic contribution of $187 million to New Hampshire public education. Mega Millions and Powerball jackpots played significant roles in this surge, with sports betting via DraftKings also adding considerable momentum, accounting for over $883 million in wagers and contributing $35.6 million to the state’s education fund.

School breakfast

NH Hunger Solutions is collaborating with UNH Extension and the New England Dairy Council for the 2023 School Breakfast Challenge beginning on Sept. 5. Currently, New Hampshire ranks 47th in school breakfast participation among the 50 states. By joining the challenge, schools can help improve this ranking. The school showing the most improvement will receive the Elaine VanDyke School Breakfast Champion Award, with a press conference to announce the victory. Visit nhhungersolutions.org or email rcorr@nhhungersolutions.org to learn how to get your local school involved.

Donations

St. Mary’s Bank has distributed $20,000 among four nonprofit organizations, with each receiving $5,000. According to a press release, the beneficiaries are NHSPCA, CASA of New Hampshire, Society for the Protection of New Hampshire Forests and New Hampshire Food Bank. The donations stem from the 603 Account initiative launched in September 2022, where St. Mary’s Bank donates $0.0603 to a chosen nonprofit category whenever account holders make a purchase with their debit card. The initiative is set to continue, emphasizing high-impact areas to enhance community welfare and environmental health.

Grant

Canterbury Shaker Village in New Hampshire has been awarded a $210,998 grant from the Institute of Museum and Library Services (IMLS) to fund a three-year project for collections inventory and cataloging. According to a press release, this grant will facilitate the Village in inventorying, cataloging and preserving its Shaker-made and Shaker-used objects, estimated to be around 40,000 items. The project will enhance both physical and intellectual control over the collection, benefiting staff and researchers of Shaker history. Canterbury Shaker Village, established in 1792, is among the best-preserved Shaker Villages. The Village is also a part of the NH Heritage Museum Trail, a network connecting New Hampshire’s heritage institutions. Visit shakers.org.

On Wednesday, Aug. 23, the New Hampshire Department of Safety announced it had been informed about an aerial stunt involving a hot air balloon set to occur, weather permitting, that day around 5:30 p.m. over Laconia and Sanbornton. According to a press release, emergency services were briefed about the stunt to prepare for possible calls about the activity. Organizers later confirmed that the stunt had been postponed.

The Glen Lake Swim, “Viva Las Glennie,” was held in Goffstown on Aug. 13, according to a press release. Celebrating the 1960s, the event featured a special performance by Elvis tribute artist Mark Shelton, and swimmers participated in races. Winners included Michael Dowd, Brenna Dowd and Eric Nilsson. The event was livestreamed by Goffstown Television.

Rockingham Choral Society in Exeter will hold open rehearsals on Tuesdays, Sept. 5 and Sept. 12, at Exeter High School for new and returning choral singers. According to a press release, the Society offers membership to individuals age 16 and up and has more than 95 members. A placement audition is required for newcomers but demands no preparation. Dues for high school and college students are waived. Individuals can pre-register via the Society’s website or Facebook page.

Wonder, I wonder

The rain had been heavy through the night, but the morning dawned with brilliant sunshine, so I decided to have my morning meditation out on the porch. The breeze was light, just gently rustling the leaves, when a diamond caught my eye. Actually, it was a single leaf, wet from the rain, twinkling down at me from the tree opposite. It so arrested my attention that I marveled at the simplicity of its beauty and its mesmerizing effect on me. And then, I looked down to my meditation prompt, a poem titled “Presence,” by the Irish writer John O’Donohue. He’d written “Take time to celebrate the quiet miracles that seek no attention.” Clearly this little leaf was one of those quiet miracles, posing unwittingly as a diamond.

O’Donohue writes frequently about “wonder” and its power to take us out of ourselves and to lead us to frontiers of awareness. How rare such moments are in my own life, I realized with embarrassment. This experience of unexpected beauty stimulated so many related reactions. And then, from the other room, came the all-too-familiar sound from my smartphone that a text had arrived. It almost pulled me back into that world, but I resisted and stayed in my chair.

So much of the time, as O’Donohue notes, we run along the “rail tracks of purpose.” Routines and schedules, obligations, and responsibilities: These all cause us to be productive, no doubt, but perhaps they also keep us so directed that our sense of wonder — that capacity we see so much in young children — is frustrated.

So, then my meditation turned to the tension that exists between the openness to wonder and the distraction, the control imposed by the very technologies that purportedly make our lives better. Efficient? Yes. Richer? I doubt it. And now comes AI, with its great promises. No Luddite, I, but still I wonder, how wonder will survive. AI may be able eventually to replicate human reasoning, but I rather think the gift of wonder will always be uniquely our own.

Noah benShea wrote, “Eternity is any moment opened with patience.” Patience and wonder in tandem. Not a bad start to my day!

You can contact Steve Reno at stepreno@gmail.com.

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